We all have our own unique perceptions about what a guy can or cannot tolerate. But now a Reddit thread has attracted more than 8,400 upvotes and comments, asking what one thing is the ultimate turn-off for men in a partner.
Many women treat men in ways that diminish their egos, making them feel inadequate. They also verbalize criticism, resentment and frustration to express their dissatisfaction with their man.
1. Talking Down to or Belittling her
Sometimes, men may talk down to or belittle their partners without even realizing it. This can happen in a variety of ways, and can be quite difficult to recognize.
Women who are often belittled by their partners are often left feeling like they have no value. They can be made to feel worthless, unattractive, and boring.
The key is to find out what they’re doing that makes them feel that way and stop it. If they’re genuinely not trying to be mean, this can help them see it for what it is and change their behavior for the better.
2. Put her on a Pedestal
When you’re in a new relationship, it’s totally natural to fall in love with a woman and want to treat her like a princess. But if this starts to go on for too long, it may be time to reassess your mindset and take her off the pedestal.
Women are human and innately flawed, just like you are. Idealizing them and making them into some one-sided goddess is exhausting for both of you. It’s also likely to end in a breakup.
3. Making her feel Self-Conscious
Men often get away with a lot of stuff that women would not tolerate. They are tutored to be lenient, compromise and think little about themselves.
When you put it all together, it is not difficult to see why so many women feel self-conscious around their partners.
While healthy self-conscious emotions are a part of being human, unhealthy levels can cause significant problems in your life. These feelings can include social anxiety, isolation, low self-esteem and depression.
4. Making her feel Unmanly
Despite men being bigger and stronger than women, many still hold on to certain notions about what it means to be a man. If a guy does something that isn’t considered “manly,” it can seem like he’s not following the rules or isn’t doing what a real man should be doing.
One thing that most guys have told us is that they wouldn’t tolerate is crying or showing any kind of vulnerability – even if it’s something they want to do and enjoy doing. It’s seen as unmanly, and they feel they have to keep it bottled up or they will be judged.
5. Making her feel Infertile
Many women experience infertility, a condition that makes it hard for them to get pregnant. About one-third of fertility problems are due to female causes, while another third are caused by male factors or a combination of the two.
Some women have trouble ovulating, which means they release an egg every month. Hormonal imbalances, a past eating disorder, substance abuse, thyroid conditions and severe stress can all interfere with ovulation.
Some women also have endometriosis, a disease that causes the lining of the uterus to grow outside of it. This can block fallopian tubes or prevent eggs from implantation.
6. Trying to Change her
One of the most common things men usually tolerate about women is trying to change their behavior. Whether it’s trying to make her a more suitable partner, or just wanting to feel better about themselves, this approach doesn’t do any good and may actually cause more harm than good in the long run. Rather than trying to change her, focus on finding ways to help her. For example, you might work with her to find a way to deal with her stress, or talk about how she can improve her career opportunities.